If someone may be monitoring your device, use a safer phone or computer before contacting services, changing access, or saving information.
Tool 01

Start Here

You do not need to know which resource you need. Choose the statement that feels most true, and this page will route you to one practical next step.

Estimated time: 5–10 minutesUpdated July 2026Print-friendly
Choose what fits
01

I do not feel safe

Do not begin with proving what happened. Begin with reducing access and increasing support.

Move toward a safer location if one is available

This may be another room, a public place, a trusted person, or emergency services.

Tell one trusted person what is happening

Use direct language and say what you need from them today.

Use a safer device before changing passwords or contacting services

Some changes can alert a person who is monitoring you.

02

I want to save evidence

Your first job is not creating a perfect case. It is preventing useful information from disappearing.

Choose one safer storage location

Do not use an account or device the unsafe person can access.

Save the original before editing or annotating it

Keep screenshots, messages, photos, recordings, and files in their original form when possible.

Write one sentence explaining what each item shows

Context is easier to preserve now than reconstruct later.

03

I am thinking about reporting

Preparation does not obligate you to report. It gives you more control if you decide to move forward.

Identify who would receive the report

Police, a hospital, school, employer, court, licensing body, or another institution.

Write a one-paragraph summary

Who, what, when, where, current safety concern, and what you are asking them to do.

List the evidence you have without sending it yet

Know what exists before deciding what to share.

04

I need medical care

You can seek care without deciding whether to report to law enforcement.

Write down what happened to your body

Include pain, marks, dizziness, memory gaps, nausea, bleeding, strangulation, substances, or loss of consciousness.

Ask what can be documented in the medical record

You can request clear documentation of what you report and what the provider observes.

Ask about privacy, cost, forensic options, and advocacy

The answers may affect where and how you seek care.

05

I asked for help and it went badly

A harmful response can become part of the record. Preserve what you asked for and what the institution did.

Write down the name, date, time, and method of contact

Do this before details fade.

Record what you reported and what you requested

Keep your request separate from their response.

Save report numbers, emails, voicemails, letters, and screenshots

Do not rely on the institution to preserve the record for you.

06

I do not know what comes first

Do only these three things. You can stop after one.

Safety: identify one person or place that increases safety today

Do not build a full plan yet.

Preservation: save one item that could disappear

A message, photo, name, date, report number, or memory note.

Support: choose one person or resource to contact

You do not have to tell the whole story.