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Tool 04

I Am Thinking About Reporting

Preparation gives you options. Choose who you may report to, and the page will show you what to prepare and what to record afterward.

Estimated time: 10–20 minutesUpdated July 2026Print-friendly
Choose what fits
Choose what fits today

Which statement is closest?

You do not have to select the perfect category. Choose the closest one. Every path gives you a specific next action.

What this page can do

It can reduce the number of decisions in front of you. It is not emergency response, legal advice, therapy, or medical care.

Ask for access before the conversation begins

You may request an interpreter, communication support, a disability accommodation, a support person where allowed, correct name and pronoun use, a quieter location, written questions, or extra time. Ask what is available before you begin the full report.

01

Reporting to law enforcement

Prepare the shortest accurate version first.

Write who, what, when, where, and current safety concern

Keep the summary to one page if possible.

List the evidence that exists

Do not hand over your only copy.

Prepare three questions

What is the report number? What happens next? Who do I contact after another incident?

02

Reporting to a medical provider

Lead with what happened to your body and what you need from the visit.

List symptoms and timing

Include strangulation, substances, memory gaps, pain, bleeding, dizziness, or loss of consciousness.

State your request

Treatment, testing, photographs, forensic examination, documentation, advocacy, or referral.

Ask about privacy and record access

Know who can see the record and how corrections are requested.

03

Reporting to a school or university

Separate immediate safety needs from the investigation request.

Identify the specific access or safety problem

Classes, pickup, housing, contact, campus access, attendance, or communication.

Ask for the policy and process in writing

Do not rely only on a verbal explanation.

Request written confirmation of interim measures

Record who is responsible and when they begin.

04

Reporting to an employer or licensing body

Describe conduct, policy impact, safety concern, and requested action separately.

Write the specific conduct and dates

Avoid broad labels when exact behavior is available.

Identify the policy or workplace impact if known

Do not force yourself to make legal conclusions.

Ask what confidentiality can and cannot be promised

Know who will receive the report.

05

Preparing for court or a legal process

Organize around the question the court is being asked to decide.

Create a date-based index

Orders, filings, service, hearings, incidents, reports, and communication.

Keep originals and create a hearing copy

Do not mark on the only copy.

Write the exact relief or outcome you are requesting

This helps separate facts from the requested order.

06

I am not sure whether to report

You can prepare without deciding today.

Name the purpose

Safety, documentation, accountability, medical care, workplace protection, custody, or preserving future options.

Name the possible cost or risk

Retaliation, escalation, privacy loss, disbelief, time, money, or exposure.

Name what information you still need

Process, confidentiality, deadlines, evidence, jurisdiction, or support.

After the report

Record the interaction before you leave it behind

Name and role of person receiving the report
Date, time, location, and method
Report, case, badge, or reference number
What they said would happen next
Deadline or follow-up date
What you sent or handed over
Before you contact a service

Help them understand what you need quickly

Lead with the clearest facts first

Your emotions matter, and you do not need to hide them. When time is limited, beginning with observable facts can help a hotline, hospital, shelter, attorney, school, or agency understand urgency and route you to the right care faster.

  • What happened and when
  • Whether the person can reach you now
  • Any injuries, threats, weapons, stalking, or forced contact
  • Children, dependents, pets, or service animals affected
  • Disability, communication, medication, mobility, or sensory needs
  • Housing, money, transportation, phone, or identification barriers
  • Your name and pronouns, if you want them used
  • The specific help you are asking for today
You do not have to simplify your life to deserve help

A useful plan can include chosen family, LGBTQ+ safety concerns, older adults, disability-related care, immigration concerns, emotional or psychological abuse, financial control, children, pets, and service animals. Name the barriers that affect what is safe and possible for you.